Alone or Lonely

PUBLISHED: 28/02/2005




Everyone knows how this feels, waking up alone in your bed, cold and bored. As if the world is dressed in a dark grey and silent suit which nothing can penetrate.
Being alone can be a drag but what you do with this time is most important.

You can stay miserable and feel sorry for yourself, or you can do something with it and about it. Change your attitude and color your world into a kaleidoscope of adventure and dreams.

There are several reasons why a person would be alone in the first place. For most people who live alone it is just for fun. No commitment, no other rules but your own, freedom, easiness, coming home at a ridiculous late hour with no one complaining
and so on. These are just a few reasons why I live alone.

I was fed up with having to clean up the mess my brother made and to wash other peoples clothes as well but I realized very quickly that even when living alone there is still junk to be cleaned away. I still have to do my own laundry (I am the
owner of a washing machine, yes…), I still have to do my own dishes and that they don’t get any cleaner when I leave them lying around.
Now when I visit my parents, it is less terrible to do some work around the house.

The end of a relationship is a sad but very true reason for being alone. You want to lie in your bed all day long,watch ‘tear-jerk’movies and you feel like ritually burning all the pictures of you and your lover. This is a less nice reason for being alone but look at it in a different way. See it as a healing process. Finally
you have the time to read that book you had lying around, or to really focus on your (school) work, spend your time the way you want to.
You are alone but there is nothing wrong with it.

Of course the main reason for being alone in this world are your personal decisions. You decide whether or not you want to be alone. People who say they are forced to be alone, indirectly choose to be alone. If you allow someone to take away your social contacts, especially in our society, it still depends on your own decisions.

You can be as social as you want to be, you just have to take the effort of trying.
Keep in mind, there is a large difference between being alone and loneliness.

What characterizes being alone is the fact that you need it and it doesn’t matter where, when and how, you take that small moment to relax and heal and bring back some
music to your heart.