What would you say when you suddenly notice that everyone around you is different? It’s normal right? You expect people to be different than yourself but what we see is only the outside.We see a cover, an image, a picture of a small fragment of who that person is. Either intentionally or just because that is how she or he is.
But from that small piece we are not able to see truly what keeps them busy, what moves them, what troubles haunt their minds, what joys they have seen and what sorrows cross their heart. It would be liberating sometimes when people would instantly understand you, that they would only have to look into your eyes and see what you are going through.
I hate to burst the bubble but there are only a rare few who have this gift. I was lucky enough to meet one a few years ago and he has been a rescue to me.
My conclusion was that everyone has an invisible little wall around them on which they present an image of who they are, or who they want to be. For some people this wall is thin and almost non-existent, allowing them to be more honest about who they are, what they stand for and what they want to show in their lives.
For others this wall is thick and their sole way of protecting themselves. They hold on to this projection because they can’t or won’t let people get close, they feel that it will keep them from harm but it in fact can cause harm. Pain, for the people who have this wall, seems a daily habit and they try very hard to hide it. They climb away in their shell and turn from what is truly meaningful, they end up forgetting their own goals and values, merely because they have to protect their feelings.
Now the question is: how much is too much? How thick should you have this wall? Should you have one at all?
These are questions you can only answer for yourself, there is no one who can tell you how much you should protect yourself because they can’t stand in your shoes! They cannot experience things the way you experience them and therefore they are not allowed to judge on what should be right.
This is about how YOU feel, what feels right and what IS right are two different things but there is nothing wrong in comparing those to each other. It’s your given right as a human. See what feels comfortable to you and what works best for you, as long as you remain honest to yourself.
The most important thing is to realize to love yourself, to fully understand who you are and what you are. When you can do this, there is nothing and no one who can touch you.
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